Let’s talk about the most underrated but envied quality that many work hard at attaining, yet unfortunately fail to acquire: peace.
How many of you feel me? Because I feel me.
But no, seriously—we all want it. We work very hard to obtain it, so we chase it in women or men, cars, money, and much, much more.
But here’s the thing that many may find difficult to receive — it can only be found in Christ. And yes, I know what you’re thinking.
“I tried that… now what?”
And to that, I will present a very short-winded response as we go through this article, so for now, just stick with me.
Finding Your Peace
Peace can only be experienced when you walk in righteousness. The reason being is because God has established spiritual principles that bring order—and peace follows when we align with them. These are not suggestions, but laws that govern how we live.
If you walk in daily repentance, you naturally submit yourself under God and His covering. But if you follow in rebellion, you walk farther away from His covering.
One truth about peace that must be understood is that it is a spiritual fruit. Therefore, you cannot obtain it through physical means such as buying cars or climbing the corporate ladder.
Yes, for a short moment, it may feel as though these achievements bring a sense of peace, but it is short-lived. It doesn’t last.
Moreover, these things can place you in a cycle of striving again and again, only to discover that something is broken— and that broken thing lives in you.
And it’s a good thing that that brokenness resides in you. Why? Because that crack invites light to seep.
So with this truth in mind, how can we begin to position ourselves to receive peace? One simple word: repent. I know religious leaders have framed this word in a way that draws fear, but I guarantee you the act of repentance as a daily practice deeply resets the soul.
Repentance just means to turn back toward God after you’ve fallen short.
But here’s the greater truth…
In order to know what you need to repent from, you must dig into Scripture, for that’s where you will find God. This is important because it is in this space that God quickens your spirit through the Holy Spirit.
He softens your heart in this space. This is a very sacred time because it is in this space that God will conceive and sharpen your convictions. These convictions will ultimately direct your path—but only if you tune your ears to them.
And as you continue to live a repentant lifestyle, you will catch yourself simply turning back to God when you do not feel that sense of peace or alignment.
In other cases, where you do not feel God’s peace while living a repentant lifestyle, you must trust. Trust Him to deliver you as you surrender your concerns to Him so He can comfort you.
Matthew 11:28 (NIV):
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
Being in this space is generally temporary, as oftentimes God uses these moments to build endurance in His people. So be encouraged and remain faithfully patient during this time.
When God has me in this season, I practice gratitude as a means of encouragement while trusting God’s character to restore my peace.
Typically, in this pruning stage, I often find myself closer to God, which makes it all the more rewarding.
Protecting Your Peace
When you have begun to train your spirit to tune your ears to your convictions, you’ll eventually be met at a crossroads where setting boundaries becomes vital to protect your peace.
The purpose of boundaries is to differentiate what is yours from what is not yours. What you’ll see with people who have boundary issues is that they either have rigid boundaries or porous boundaries.
If you experience resentment or bitterness as a result of overextending, you may have porous boundaries. On the other hand, if you find yourself isolated with walls that can’t be penetrated, your boundaries may be too rigid.
So take the time to assess what’s working from what’s not working, all while giving yourself grace. It’s also important to note that the boundary that worked in one season may not apply in the next, so be willing to be flexible.
You’ll know your boundaries are healthy when they preserve God’s peace in your life (Colossians 3:15).
Living in Your Peace
When you have peace, I strongly urge you to take it in. There have been times in my life where I felt undeserving of my peace that I returned to the very thing that robbed it.
It is easy to sabotage what feels unfamiliar, but I am here to remind you, friend—you are worthy of your peace.
So take it in and live in it.
